I know it’s the qualityof time but it’s hard.
Bobby has been here, over a week, and he has only spent one night with us. We saw him Tuesday ( when he slept over) he helped Elliott clean the roof) and last night he came over and helped me pick up branches. Then we had dinner and went to the hospital to see Cory (he had passed out mowing the lawn but seemed ok). Then he came back to the house for a short time and left to go back to Rachel’s place. We will see them tonight for Bobby’s birthday. He is home one more week and then goes back to Iowa for a couple of weeks. I doubt we see him much this week. He is in a wedding(this coming weekend) that only Rachel is invited to. I know he is a grown man but it’s hard that he spends most of his time with Rachel. Matt is here all the time and I don’t see him much. I guess it’s because Bobby is the Baby and not here as much. He will be back and forth, In indy, this Summer. Ladies, am I being a Clinging whiny Mom?
Posted by CarolFay on 06/12 at 03:42 PM
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Wise words, Carol. I’ve learned to have low expectations and only complain to Bill!
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 06/15 at 08:39 AM
I think we have a near universal theme. Parents of adult children often want more social interaction than vice versa. I suppose there are exceptions. Old folks need to be desirable. I am quite fortunate that Kara enjoys garage saling but I drive and I usually work up the list too. Sometimes we stop for lunch and I treat. One of Bill’s cousins has both children living in the same city as she does and she fixes Sunday brunch every week and her kids are expected to show for that one hour.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 06/15 at 12:23 PM
I agree on the desirable. We didn’t spoil them growing up, but now we do whenever we are with them.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 06/15 at 01:57 PM
I text Bobby, today, telling him I’m off Fri-Sun. He will try to see me Fri. morn, befor he goes golfinf and he is pretty sure we get him for Father’s Day. The rest of Friday and Saturday he is busy with the Wedding he is in.
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 06/15 at 03:31 PM
It’s not wrong to want to spend time with your adult kids, but reality can be a whole other thing!! It takes time to get used to this CarolFay - but don’t give up, keep asking and inviting - and remember, he isn’t avoiding you, he is just in the next phase of his life!!
Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 06/12 at 11:20 PM